Defining love: 21 different views of what love means

People define love differently and this can be linked to a number of factors - either nature or nurture.

We asked a wide range of people about what love means to them. Here is what they had to say.

Love is letting people share a bit of space in your heart. Love to me means security and vulnerability. Love is knowing, accepting and embracing people's shortcomings. Love comes in different forms, we choose the one that works best for us.


Love, to me, is that irrational feeling that means you allow others to get away with things they really shouldn't. It's self destructive, it's painful, it's upsetting, but it leads to the greatest calm, respect, happiness and support one can ever get.


Love is not just a feeling, it is a choice - a choice you make to love someone unconditionally and without reservation, even when things could fall apart. It is knowing that the journey won't always be a walk in the park but being able to find and be with someone worth walking through the park of life with.


It means trust and secure pleasure.


The word love to me, is more than just a word. It is about giving and sharing things with other people. Love to me is about a sense of comfort and reliability and knowing there is a sense of warmth and trust, but also a form of vulnerability, allowing deeper connections both through faith and not. However, love is more than a connection it’s about being committed to something and knowing that it can be you safe place and guidance, like the Father's love - it’s a safe place to land.


Love is a diverse word and I don't know if I can do it justice by explaining what it is exactly. Love is unconditional, peaceful, serene, any word that exudes a positive nature. Love also reminds me of God, cause God is love and He shows us love every single day. Love does not come with conditions and it does not change because you have done the opposite of what I expected.

Neville Charlton

I would say for me, love means everything. I have found that the only thing I really need is to love and be loved. It’s the soil I plant my life in and see myself grow, it’s the conduit through which I want everything else in my life to flow through.


It means giving and not expecting anything back.


Love is a decision of the heart, mind and soul.


Love is caring for someone deeply and unconditionally, love is respect, love means knowing that no matter what, you have someone to count on, love is a feeling.


Salvation, relationship (family and friends), time, consideration, respect.


Selflessness. Sometimes putting someone else’s interests before mine, even when it really sucks for me. That’s big love for me.

KB Brizzy

The first word that comes into my mind is sacrifice. Not only because of how Jesus sacrificed himself for us, which was the biggest act of love, but when I'm loving my husband and my children. For example, sacrificing and being generous with my time so that they feel attended to and loved and cared for.


Love to me is a two-way street,a very bumpy road, that connects two imperfect individuals together. Communication,forgiveness, trust and patience are the chief-builders of this long journey coupled by respect. In conclusion, love is an adoration beyond beauty and material things. It is an eternal feeling that is beautifully sculptured within one's heart.


For me, love is the most secure feeling. Love is having a companion, best friend, lover, partner, sounding board, cheerleader, advisor, and cuddle buddy through every avenue in the journey of life.


It's knowing you have someone to count on and loving that person unconditionally despite their faults and also compromising in everything. Love never hurts or makes you cry. Love is God! If you don't have God then you don't have love, period!


Companionship, loyalty, caring, sharing adventures. Having that special connection with someone.


Love means I care about someone, I think fondly about them and am committed to them.


Loves means putting others before your own needs with no limit to the lengths you would go.

Michael M

So for me, it means spending time with someone, laughing and being together. It means going out of your way for a family member to help them accomplish something that does not help you at all. It means to be fully known and yet to be fully accepted. It means being kind, gracious and denying your rights and just offering yourself to someone to serve them.


Respect, honour, value and loyalty.